Having clear boundaries is essential to life. Without boundaries we find ourselves drained from all our energy and suffering. Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend provide a way to determine whether you have a problem with boundaries, and then provide a clear way to help yourself slowly start to erect this boundaries.
What I liked:
So I have kept this book review in my back pocket because I thought this book was so amazing, that I needed some time away from it to determine if I really felt that it was still amazing. And I’m still going to stand by my opinion: this is an AMAZING book. This book is life-changing if you’re willing to do the work. It helped me understand things about boundaries (and codependence) that I didn’t understand before.
Here’s the thing, I’m not going to mince words: this book is Christian. It refers back to the Bible a lot and I noticed a lot of people on Amazon didn’t like that. And I can understand that. Let’s be honest, there are churches and Christians that have hurt a lot of people. I encourage you, if you are one those, read this book. It takes those corrupted ideas and it rectifies them, and helps you understand what may have been really meant. I didn’t grow up in the church and I still got smacked with some of those ideas. These guys help you understand that God wants you to take care of yourself first, that you are entitled to boundaries, and to healthy relationships.
I want to encourage you to pick up this book and read it, even if you object to the Christian parts, because it’s just great information. I mean, it really is. There’s nothing else I can say about it.
What I didn’t like:
This is one of those times when I loved everything about it. It’s easy to read, it’s quick to read, but stuffed with good information to help you improve yourself. What’s not to love?
This is one of those few books that I would recommend to everyone, because it really changed the way I see myself, others, and the world, and has genuine helped how I interact with others.